About Dr. Ellie

Hi, and welcome! I'm Dr. Ellie. I have a doctorate in educational psychology. For over 13 years, I taught middle school level special education, reading, and social studies. My special education specialties include learning, behavioral, and emotional challenges. For 12 years, I taught at the post-secondary level, at both the undergraduate and graduate levels. My main area of university teaching is research and educational psychology, and I consult on dissertation methods and analysis. Most recently, I was a mentor of doctoral learners at the University of Phoenix. Currently, I am residing in the country of St. Maarten in the Dutch Caribbean, where I have become involved in special education consulting. Hobbies include reading (especially reading and critiquing young adult fiction), quilting, and crochet. I also enjoy walking, art museums, great music (from classical to contemporary), and exploring new local places. I love photography, and am trying my hardest to become a passable picture snapper.

Youth and Alcohol

Yesterday, I read a post by a prolific blogger/writer that got me thinking about how and why young people begin to drink alcohol to excess.  He became an alcoholic right after high school. His story, How the Bottle Drank Me, can be found here–maybe, and if you are a WordPress user (his blogs can be found at aopinionatedman.com, if the link does not work for you. He is not the first young person to have fallen into the sensory deprivation vat; neither is he the youngest to become an alcoholic.  His reasons for drinking may be valid or not, depending on how one thinks.   That he even had a reason–or discovered it at a later time–says a lot about how we justify what we do with our lives as we become older.  Few youth who become alcoholics tell you the why of their alcoholism; most can tell you the how.  It takes a lot of introspection to get to a why; not so much to explain the how.

The point is, I have never fully understood alcoholism.  My father was a “weekend alcoholic.”  At least, he was so as far as we knew.  How he was able to control his drinking during the week while drinking himself into stupor on weekends still amazes me.  I wonder if he drank during the week, but with a good deal of control.  I’ll never know, as he died more than 20 years ago of an unrelated illness.  Both my children ended up as very heavy drinkers for a while; each now is able to drink in moderation, so I guess alcoholism is not the worry for them that it was for me when I was in college and afterwards.  Many kids drink before they are of age, and a sizable proportion of them become alcoholics at an early age–both in greater proportions than we would like to admit, and at very tender ages (as young as middle school).  For me, I just stayed away from binge drinking or from situations where drinking alcoholic beverages was the only common denominator of a gathering.  Because of my father, I was truly afraid that I would become dependent on alcohol; and that was definitely something I did not want to be.

From articles I’ve read on youth drinking, most young alcoholics do not have much more “reason” for drinking than that it is a social activity of their peer group.  Just as with any addiction, some kids get addicted to alcohol much sooner and with much less exposure than others.  For these kids, the ability to control or even quit their drinking becomes almost insurmountable.  Vigilant educators–whether those teaching K-12 or in higher education–might spot the problem of a bright child or young adult who is suddenly adrift.  But with classrooms at all levels out of proportion to good grounded education, it is almost impossible for an educator to get to know a student well enough–or get physically close enough to a student–to begin to suspect alcohol usage.

Although I do not understand alcoholism, I do understand dependency.  I am addicted to nicotine and have tried unsuccessfully to quit.  Yet, it is impossible for me to get addicted to drugs–especially prescription drugs (which I forget to take)–yet nicotine was almost immediately addictive to me, just as alcohol or other drugs are very quickly addictive to many youth and adults.  Why only nicotine is a question that seems unanswerable.  Yet, physicians are reluctant to write a prescription for Xanax because of my addiction to nicotine.  “You must have an addiction disorder,” they say, “or you wouldn’t be so addicted to nicotine.”  But that is not at all the case.  If it were, I would be an alcoholic and an abuser of tranquilizers.

The real problem with youth drinking is that too many people think a young person’s drinking is just a phase that everyone goes through.  Most of these people went through such a stage during their youth and have not become alcoholics.  Alcoholism, in their minds, is something that older people become.  There appears to be a belief that it takes years of heavy drinking to become an alcoholic.  Yet that is not true–any dependency can sneak up on a youth as quickly and easily as an activity that is tried a few times that becomes a driving force in one’s life.  My own nicotine experience did not start until I was almost 20.  I had my first cigarette at 18, but didn’t really like it, and only smoked on occasion with friends at parties.  When I was 20, I was cramming for a final exam.  No amount of coffee was keeping me awake.  My college roommate–who did not smoke–went down to the vending machine of our dorm, purchased a pack of cigarettes, and placed it on my desk; then got into bed and fell asleep.  I smoked that pack, and it actually did keep me awake enough to pass my final exam.  And that was it.  All of a sudden, it was difficult to function–especially to study–without a cigarette.  I became addicted to nicotine very quickly, as college is all about exams and papers and studying.

Young people who become dependent on alcohol may have gone through similar experiences–drinking under a particular situation, with the situation recurring time and again in quick succession.  During my youth, smoking was socially acceptable.  Today, drinking is socially acceptable.  In both cases, it is or was acceptable within certain social limitations.  But a youth who drinks to calm her nerves before school because she has seen adults use alcohol for the same reason may suddenly find that she can no longer function at all without that shot of alcohol to get her through the day.

Again, the whys are missing.  Clearly, far too many youth have a problem with drinking.  The blogger I follow feels he has a why.  I feel I have one for my nicotine dependency.  But perhaps the whys we have assigned are not really the causal factors.  Even Alcoholics Anonymous, Alateen, and Al-anon do not seek out the whys.  Perhaps the whys are simply unhelpful in losing the dependency.  Perhaps it is only the practical, behavioral applications that can be used to cure dependency.  I do not have the answer.  However, if you know a youth who has a dependency–especially an alcohol dependency–help them find a counselor who can help them recover before they lose their future.



A Long Time…

It’s been a very long time since I’ve posted anything to this–or any other–blog.  Living on a peripheral island at the juncture of the Caribbean Sea and the Atlantic Ocean, internet service leaves much to be desired, and had become frustrating enough to become more an oppressing ordeal than a fun way of sharing news, thoughts, tips, etc.

Over the past several months, I have been involved in mediating an Aggression Replacement Training (ART) program–with a lot of help from other trainers–for a group of elementary level boys that are part of a Little League team than insists on academics before practice.  The academic emphasis of the team’s leadership has helped the boys and girls on the team do better in school and (hopefully) see the importance of learning to their future lives.  Now, I have to state that Coach Tom has helped produce several local players into professional ball players–which I will try to name after I get the names to stick in my head–and that in itself is a strong motivator for some of the boys.  The problem is that many of the boys that come to the team have behavioral issues that keep them from practicing or playing in a game or both.  And that’s where the ART program comes in.

Over a year ago, I took a training course that was meant to be a “train the trainers” workshop.  Fortunately for me, all the participants were in the same situation I was in, thinking that this session was to teach us how to run the program for groups of kids who need help controlling anger issues.  Many of the participants work with older, secondary-level kids; I and the Little League personnel–Coach Tom and his lovely wife Lisa–were the only ones working with younger kids.  Unfortunately, just as we had gotten started, I became very ill–twice in quick succession–and was unable to fully participate in training the kids.  The problem was that I needed to show active participation in order to receive my certificate from the Dutch-based company licensed to give the training here in the Kingdom of the Netherlands, which includes Sint Maarten where I live.  And, although there was more documentation than actually needed, I was not able to meet all the necessary requirements and was not awarded the certificate we were told was needed to administer the program on our own. So, thanks to the support of Coach Tom and Ms. Lisa, we put together a program “by the book” which went very well and was observed twice by a member of the juvenile division of the Department of Justice.  The day before the final “wrap-up” program, I was called away to Florida because my husband was about to undergo unexpected surgery.  I’m back on the island now, almost a month after I left off, and we are planning a week-long review session with a “grand finale” consisting of an intense two-day skill review which we hope the representative from Justice will be able to attend (she had planned to attend the last finale event before my husband’s emergency).

The point is that while my internet connection creates lots of wasted time, I’ve been out and about working with kids several days a week that could benefit from learning how to control some of their anger issues as they deal with various situations in school, on the baseball field, at home, and around town and island.  As any educator or practicing psychologist of any therapy knows, we can only hope that the skills we help kids attain will be ones that they will thing about and use not only now but in the future–when they can more maturely evaluate the reasons they were taught the skills to begin with.  I certainly hope that’s true for this group.  Kids with problems may not seem as lovable as those without, but they are the ones who need attention and acceptance more strongly to allow them to grow as individuals.  The social skills they are learning will hopefully not only help them master their tendency to fly into anger, but will also help them learn how to get along better with others.  Right now, this group’s focus is on how to get along on the team and on the playing field as well as with competing players.  Later in life, these same skills will help them get and keep jobs, make friends, and provide a more balanced and fruitful life.

So it’s back to work for me.  Hopefully I’ll be able to keep you up to date on what’s happening with the team’s behavior.  Or maybe I’ll be moving on to something else.  We’ll see.

Until next time!

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